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ACA Meeting Format
Meeting lasts 1.5 hours
Hello. My name is (your first name). Welcome to (name of meeting) meeting of
Adult Children of Alcoholics.
Please be sure all cell phones are turned off during the meeting.
We meet to share the experience we had as children growing up in an alcoholic or
dysfunctional home. That experience infected us then and it affects us today. By
practicing the 12 Steps, by focusing on the Solution, and by accepting a Higher
Power of our understanding, we find freedom from the effects of alcoholism and
other family dysfunction. We identify with “The Problem” and learn to live in “The
Solution”, one day at a time.
Will you please join me in a moment of silence followed by the Serenity
I’ve asked _______ to read The Problem (or The Laundry List)
I’ve asked _______ to read The Solution.
I’ve asked _______ to read The 12 Steps.
You may have related to our readings even if there was no apparent alcoholism or
addiction in your home. This is common because dysfunction can occur in a family
without the presence of addition. We welcome you.
If you are attending an ACA meeting for the first time, will you please introduce
yourself by your first name? This is not to embarrass you, but so we may welcome
you and get to know you. (Lead applause). We are glad you are here. Keep
coming back. May we go around the room and introduce ourselves by our first
name. My name is __________.
This program is not easy, but if you can handle what comes up at six consecutive
meetings in a row, you will start to come out of denial. This will give you freedom
from the past. Both you and your life will change.
In the beginning, many of us could not recognize or accept that some of our current
attitudes or behaviors result from some experience related to alcoholism or
dysfunction in our childhood. We behave as adult children, which means we bring
self-doubt and fear learned in childhood to our adult interactions. By attending six
meetings in a row and attending regularly thereafter, we come to know and begin to
act as our True Selves.
We encourage each member to share openly about his or her experiences as time
allows. This is a safe place to share your adult and childhood experiences without
being judged. To allow everyone a chance to share during the meeting, we ask
each person to limit their sharing to five minutes. (Three to four if the meeting is
What you hear at this meeting should remain at the meeting. We do not talk about
another person’s story or experiences to other people. Please respect the
anonymity of those who share with us today.
We do not cross talk during the sharing time. Cross talk means interrupting,
referring to, or commenting on what another person has said during the meeting.
We do not cross talk because adult children come from family backgrounds where
feelings and perceptions were judged as wrong or defective. We accept without
comment what others say because it is true for them. We work toward taking more
responsibility in our lives rather than giving advice to others.
Today’s meeting is a _________ (Step Study, Open or Topic discussion, Tradition Study,
Speaker or other). We will begin sharing now and will end at ______ (approx. 15
minutes before the close of the meeting).
(Leader can call on people who raise their hands, or you can go around left to
right/right to left – leader or meeting choice)
We can now begin sharing.
(Group sharing ends.)
It’s now time for the 7th Tradition (pass the basket) which states that “Every ACA
group ought to be self supporting, declining outside contributions.” Newcomers are
encouraged to buy literature/books and need not contribute at their first meeting.
Can someone read the 12th Traditions?
Now it’s time for the:
–Intergroup Committee Report
Does anyone have any other ACA related announcements?
(If time allows) Does anyone else have a burning desire to share? &/or That’s all
the time we have for sharing. Thank you for being here and please keep coming
back. If you did not have a chance to share, please speak to someone after the
meeting if you need to talk.
It is time to read The Promises?
Will _________ please close the meeting with the prayer of your choice? (stand and
form a circle by holding hands)
Keep coming back. It works.